Hey there, beautiful souls! Welcome back to Aspire and Achieve with Annie , the podcast that helps you navigate life’s biggest transitions with confidence and purpose. If you’ve ever felt like you’re just "going through the motions", like life has lost its spark, or like you’ve somehow fallen into a rut you can’t climb out of—this episode is for you.
Today, we’re talking about something I hear from women ALL the time:
I feel stuck.
I don’t know who I am anymore.
Is this really all there is?
I want you to know you are not alone—and more importantly, you are NOT stuck. You have the power to reinvent yourself at any age, and today, I’m going to show you how.
We’ll cover:
- Why so many women hit this “stuck” point in midlife
- How to break free from the feeling that your best days are behind you
- A simple **3-step exercise** to help you rediscover what excites you right now
And at the end, I’ve got a free gift to help you take action today. So stick with me!
Before we talk about how to reinvent yourself, let’s talk about why we get stuck in the first place. Because I know some of you are thinking:
I want to change, but I don’t even know where to start.
I feel like I should be happy, but I’m not.
I don’t even know who I am anymore.
And I hear you. I’ve been there too.
1. Society Tells Us We Should Have It All Figured Out
From the time we’re little girls, we’re given a checklist for life:
- Get good grades
- Go to college
- Get married
Have kids. Take care of everyone around you. And somewhere along the way, we stop asking ourselves what WE actually want. We become the caretakers. The wife. The mother. The dependable employee. The one who holds it all together. And then one day, the kids move out. Or the marriage ends. Or we wake up and realize… I don’t even recognize the woman in the mirror.
2. We’re Taught That Change Is for the Young
Somewhere along the way, society started selling us this lie: That reinvention is something you do in your 20s, but in your 40s, 50s, and beyond? It’s too late. Nope. Not true. You are not too old. You are not out of time. Women in their 40s, 50s, and 60s are starting businesses, writing books, traveling the world, and completely transforming their lives. And you can too.
3. We Fear What Other People Will Think
Maybe you’ve had thoughts like:
What will people say if I start over at my age?
What if I fail?
What if I make a fool of myself?
But here’s the truth: People are not paying as much attention to us as we think they are. And even if they are—why should they get a vote in YOUR happiness?
4. We Forget What Brings Us Joy
When was the last time you did something just because it made you happy? Not because it was productive. Not because someone else needed it. But just because it lit you up? Many of us can’t even answer that question. Because we’ve been so busy taking care of others that we’ve completely lost sight of ourselves. Well, guess what? It’s time to change that. Now that we know why we get stuck, let’s talk about how to break free.
I want to walk you through a simple 3-step exercise to help you uncover what excites you right now. Grab a notebook or open the notes app on your phone. Ready? Let’s go.
Step 1: The Joy Audit – What Lights You Up?
I want you to think back to a time when you felt truly alive.
- What were you doing?
- Who were you with?
- What made you lose track of time?
It could be something as simple as:
- Writing stories as a kid
- Dancing in your living room
- Traveling somewhere new
- Helping others in some way
Write down at least 3 things that have ever brought you real joy.
Step 2: The ‘What If’ List – Removing the Limits
Now, ask yourself: If there were no limits—no money worries, no “what will people think” —what would I want to do? Write **everything** down. No filters. No “but that’s not practical. ” Just dream.
- Would you start a business?
- Move somewhere new?
- Take up painting?
- Learn to play the piano?
Let yourself explore the possibilities.
Step 3: The 10-Minute ExperimentNow it’s time for action.
Pick ONE thing from your lists that excites you. Just one. Ask yourself: What is ONE small step I can take toward that today that takes 10 minutes or less? Want to write? Set a timer for 10 minutes and journal.
Want to learn a new skill? Watch a YouTube tutorial. Want to connect with people? Message an old friend and set up a coffee date. You don’t have to overhaul your life overnight. You just have to take one step.
Listen, reinvention isn’t about changing who you are—it’s about becoming MORE of who you are meant to be. You are not stuck. You are not too old. You are not out of options.
I want you to really hear me when I say this:
You are allowed to want more.
You are allowed to put yourself first.
You are allowed to wake up every morning EXCITED about your life.
For years, you’ve poured your energy into everyone else—your kids, your family, your job, your responsibilities. And that’s beautiful. That’s who you are. But let me ask you this: **When was the last time you poured into YOU? When was the last time you asked yourself:
What do I want?
What makes me feel alive?
What kind of life would make me jump out of bed in the morning with excitement?
Because guess what? You deserve that. And let’s be honest—if not now, then when? There will always be reasons to wait. Always an excuse. Always a reason to stay in your comfort zone. But here’s what I know for sure:
Nothing changes if nothing changes. If you don’t make a decision today to start showing up for yourself, one year from now, five years from now—you’ll still be in the same place. And I don’t want that for you.
I want more for you. I want you to chase dreams you thought were long gone. I want you to rediscover passions that light you up. I want you to wake up every day knowing you are in control of your own happiness. And let’s make one thing clear: Taking care of yourself is NOT selfish.
Read that again.
It is not selfish to want a life that makes you happy. It is not selfish to say, "I deserve more.” It is not selfish to invest in yourself, your dreams, and your future.
Because when YOU are happy, fulfilled, and living with passion—you show up better for everyone around you. And it starts today. Not next week. Not next month. Not someday. Today. Right now.
If today’s episode spoke to you, I have something to help you take this journey even deeper. Download my FREE “Discover Your Purpose” Workbook at annielewellyn.com
This workbook will help you:
- Identify your passions
- Find clarity on what’s next
- Take real steps toward a life that excites you
And if you’re ready for **real transformation, book a 1:1 Purpose Reboot Session with me. Let’s get you UNSTUCK for good. Your future is waiting. Are you ready? Until next time, remember—it’s never too late to reinvent yourself. And you, my friend, are just getting started.
